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Source: Bahá'í Library Online (bahai-library.com), curated by Jonah Winters. Used by permission of the curator. Original citation: Barbara L. McLellan, Chasm of Belief, bahai-library.com.
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Chasm of Belief
Barbara L. McLellan
1996
For the past seven years I have been privileged to work with a young woman
who is a trauma survivor. I have watched as she courageously met each new
day knowing that it would be filled with nightmares. Simple chores like
going shopping were filled with terror. Radio and television had to be
closely monitored to ensure that nothing would trigger her and put her
into a traumatised state.
I can also remember clearly the day I gazed out my office window and with
absolute certainty and conviction believed that the human race was not a
fit species to inhabit the earth. I would not have been at all surprised
if God suddenly decided to destroy the earth. That moment which took
place a few years ago was a turning point in my belief system and led me
on a search for meaning. I knew that my old ways of understanding
adversity were no longer valid. I was not interested in "how could an
all-loving God allow these things to happen" because I believe that man
not God causes suffering. The process I became interested in is what I
call a chasm of belief . A chasm is a great divide, usually a deep long
running pit gashed into a mountain. The mountain symbolises one's faith
and the chasm can be formed by great suffering. Suddenly one's world is
cleft asunder. One does not lose faith, but there is a deep wound which
requires healing. Part of the healing process, I believe is finding
meaning when one has endured dire adversity and trauma.
This paper will explore the elements of trauma, belief, truth, and some
possible difficulties being in community.
Is there a place in the Bahá'í community for people who have experienced
great trauma?
If a person's view of the world is one of extreme pessimism, does that
person have a real place in community, or must they hide what they know to
be true?
After the war in Viet Nam, many soldiers were eventually diagnosed with a
disorder known as post traumatic stress syndrome. It is not a mental
illness. Dr Matthew Friedman of the National Center for Post traumatic
stress disorder says that the etiological agent or the traumatic event was
outside the individual rather than an inherent individual weakness or a
traumatic neurosis. The traumatic event is something outside the range of
usual human experience for instance the Holocaust, war, severe abuse,
torture and genocide. Not all people exposed to these events will have
Post traumatic stress disorder. It has been recognised that trauma, like
pain, is "not an external phenomena that can be completely objectified".
Like pain, the traumatic experience is filtered through cognitive and
emotional processes before it can be appraised as an extreme threat".1
Some aspects of the traumatic event seem to get fixed in the mind,
unaltered by the passage of time or by the intervention of subsequent
experiences.2 People with Post traumatic stress disorder have difficulty
sleeping, are extraordinarily concerned with issues of safety and freedom,
and can suffer physical illness. In addition people with Post traumatic
stress disorder can be easily triggered by visual and or audio input.
How does someone with Post traumatic stress disorder cope in community?
To understand this, we must first know the nature of Post traumatic stress
disorder. This disorder confines people to the past, not through any
inherent weakness they might have, but by the traumatic event itself. So
for instance, someone who was involved in a bombing might be thrown into
the past when a car backfires or she hears a loud bang. All the memories
are reborn once again and all the feelings of horror and confusion return.
The Holocaust is the name given to the systematic execution of six million Jews in Europe
during the Second World War. Since the Holocaust, there have been many, many other
traumatic events and many more survivors. Ritual abuse is a terror endured by children
and adults alike. This is a particularly brutal form of sexual, physical and mental abuse and
takes place in a group setting. It renders the survivors very wary of group activities. The
survivor can not trust the group and feels vulnerable, unsafe and at times terrified.
One of the differences between the Holocaust survivor and a ritual abuse survivor is that
while there is almost no denial about the former, there is still an absence of belief about
ritual abuse. This denial makes it much more difficult for survivors to recover.
We have people in our community who have experienced war, ritual abuse, torture and
have witnessed genocide. How do they see the world? A woman who survived the
Holocaust was asked how, after all the terrible things that happened to her, she found the
strength to live each day. She replied, "It's more a view of the world, a total worldwide
view of extreme pessimism ... [a sense] of really knowing the truth in a way that other
people don't know it. And all the truth is harsh and impossible to really accept, and yet
you have to go on and function. So it's a complete lack of faith in human beings, in all
areas you know, whether it's politics or whatever, you hear one thing and you believe
something else. I mean you say, 'Oh, well, I know the truth'. 3
I found this to be a most enlightening statement. The survivor sees the world with
extreme pessimism, sees it as no one else sees it, does not have faith in human beings, and
does not believe in what they say. Can you imagine how it must feel to live a life which
has these elements in it? What can be said to the survivor?
The survivor of ritual abuse also knows the truth. She knows that her teacher, or her
doctor, or her lawyer or the next door neighbour is capable of great evil and sadism, while
at the same time presenting a public face which would deny any accusations against
them.
Refugees from terror and persecution also know the twin faces. They remember that one
day they were sending their children off to school, going to work, thinking about painting
their roof and before the day was over, they were fleeing for their lives. They absolutely
know that life is unpredictable and unsafe. And there is another aspect. I met a Bahá'í
refugee from Iran who is no longer in New Zealand. He was filled with guilt. He asked
was not his blood the same as those being martyred? And yet he was safe and sound in a
free country with his wife and children. He had enormous guilt because he was able to
leave Iran.
Shoghi Effendi wrote that a tempest, unprecedented in its violence is sweeping the face of
the earth, that it is a cleansing force and it is disrupting the homes of its peoples and
harrowing up the souls of its inhabitants.4 The promised day is come, the day when
tormenting trials will have surged above your heads, and beneath your feet, saying: "Taste
ye what your hands have wrought!"5
This is the day that we are living in. It is a day fraught with danger, both spiritual and
physical and we know as Bahá'ís, that it's going to get worse in the short term. Having
said that, however, I am concerned with process: how do we as a community respond to
the sufferings of others? How do we help people make sense of their suffering? This
suffering is real and at times paralysing.
Extreme trauma destroys one's ability to trust the world. The person actually lives in two
worlds - the one around us and a world which is like a deep well of sadness. The
traumatic event seems to violate the integrity of the essence or nature of the person.
One of the ways for a survivor to live with Post traumatic stress disorder is for other
people to listen to them. Survivors need to have a hearing in community. In other words,
they need people to listen to what has happened to them and not make judgements.
However, this process is fraught with difficulties. In working with Viet Nam veterans,
Jeffrey Jay of the Center for Post-Traumatic Stress Studies and Treatment in Washington
D.C found that despite all the different therapies they tried, the young men were not
recovering from their night and day mares. He writes With our therapeutic weapons of
catharsis and confrontation in group therapy, we marched resolutely through the desolate
landscape of the veterans' alienation and isolation. Slowly, we began to understand the
depths of the problem and the meager impact of our methods, which centred on the
private, inner experience of the survivor. Only when we started to understand that the
veterans, like most trauma victims, cannot fully recover until they can find meaning for
their experience did we begin to realise the intimate connection between public acceptance
and private resolution of the trauma.6 Jeffrey Jay and his colleagues decided to have
gather people together to listen to the veterans' experiences. This was at a time in
America when being a Vietnam vet was very unpopular. A young man told his story of
how he threw a Vietcong family out of a helicopter to their deaths and wondered how he
can now take up a normal life. At that meeting was an older man who had fought during
World War II and his response was I want you to know that I was in the Pacific in the
WW2. I landed on Corregidor. What happened to us was much worse than what
happened to you, but I have never talked about it, I have never complained, and I never
will.7 To the older man, the young Viet Nam veteran had violated a fundamental code of
privacy that rigidly forbade the public revelation of terrible truths. However, the younger
man had decided it was better to tell the truth to whomever wanted to hear than to go to a
pub and drink it off.
The older man could be replaced by an older woman admonishing a young woman that
rape is part of a woman's life, or religious refugees who say, we did it for God, do not
complain I do not think the trauma victims are saying oh woe is me, look at how hard life
is, I believe they are trying to share what has happened to them to widen the human
experience and speak their terrible truth.
We have all had the experience of being with someone who sounds like a broken record.
All they can talk about is this terrible thing that happened and we can't seem to get them
off the subject. We can't seem to get them to look at the bright side of life. These people
are so negative we say. We should start to avoid them and let them get on with their own
lives.
This is a very predictable pattern for human beings. At first we will reassure and offer
cheering homilies. But the person keeps on talking in fact feels driven to a howling, self-
centered outrage that exactly corresponds in ferocity to the pain and terror of the trauma
itself.8 So we, the community begin to give subtle warnings, but the person who
experienced the trauma can not take heed. The ultimate trump card is shame. Only
shame is powerful enough to squelch the victim's desperate need to be heard. The power
of shame is known and sanctioned in the Bible: In the story of Job, neither God nor the
community would tolerate even a good and innocent man's crying out against the most
outrageous betrayal and unjust violence.
The Greek root of the word shame is scham, which refers to a skin that is used to
cover the exposed, vulnerable parts of a person, specially what is seen as shameful. The
shamed person feels both exposed and condemned, uncovered and seen through - in a
sense, flayed by the community's disgust and contempt. The trauma survivor already
wishes, on some level, to disappear, to withdraw, to die. Therefore, the best technique for
silencing the trauma victim, whose outraged and betrayed sense of self cries out for
expression, is shame, which alienates the private, violated self from the social self. Shame
causes the private self to retreat into numbness, to repress feelings and dampen personal
engagement with others.9
Now you might be saying to yourself, how very cruel of community to silence these
people who have suffered so much. But the other side of the coin is this reality: To
discuss in public the lasting effects of trauma would defy the assumption of acceptable,
safe relations between consenting citizens of a decent society. Basically, the victim who
will not remain silent is challenging society's vision of itself, bearing witness to
uncomfortable moral truths and demanding from everyone ... a kind of moral accounting:
'And where do you stand', the victim asks 'not on abstract issues of truth and justice, but
on this war and this violence and this brutality, this terrible thing that happens every day in
our world, yours as well as mine?'"10
Ah, we respond to the trauma victim: but tests are a healing medicine, my calamity is my
providence, God must really love you, no one is given a test beyond her own capacity,
don't be so negative, the world is not like that, forgive the people who hurt you and you'll
get over it. And why do we say those things? Because we cannot bear to live without
hope. We believe that the world cannot be as bad as we are being told. But this is what
the Post traumatic stress disorder survivor does not have - hope. Many survivors have a
great well of sorrow within them which cannot be filled. Robyn Morgan writes about a
Cambodian woman who saw her family and friends tortured and executed by the Khmer
Rouge. The woman said that one day they picked out one woman and one man and hit
them again and again. She began crying again, and couldn't stop. She recalls that 'it felt
like there was a big needle pushing through my head.' When she stopped crying, days
later, she could no longer see.11 The woman was blinded by sorrow. Can you imagine
what that must be like? To be so sad, you decide that you no longer want to look out at
the world.
Some people advise the person to forgive and forget. In other words, forgive the people
who hurt you so you can get over it. I am not saying that we should not forgive, but I
think we need to know what kind of forgiveness we are talking about when such advice is
given and by forgiving the individual, will the event really be forgotten?
First of all, when we advise someone to forgive, what kind of forgiveness is it? Is it
forgiveness based on the reversal of moral judgement, or as a remission of punishment, or
is it to overcome resentment?12 I do not think any of these are appropriate when a person
or persons have inflicted great harm on another. In a letter written on behalf of the
Universal House of Justice regarding the forgiveness of a father who has abused his
daughter, it states: To forgive him will not be easy, and this is not something to which
either you or the members of your family can force yourselves. Nevertheless, you should
know that forgiveness is the standard which individual Bahá'ís are called upon to attain. It
is an essential part of the spiritual growth of a person who has been wronged. To nurse a
grievance or hatred against another soul is spiritually poisonous to the soul which nurses
it, but to strive to see another person as a child of God and, however heinous his deeds, to
attempt to overlook his sins for the sake of God, removes bitterness from the soul and
both ennobles and strengthens it." 13 This is the kind of forgiveness we are called upon
to deliver: it is not in a soul's best interest to harbour hatred.
I think one of the hardest things about forgiving is if the wrongdoers have not been
punished by society. However the above quote indicates that forgiveness is an individual
act, rather than a community act, so it is possible for a wronged one to forgive, whether or
not the wrongdoer is repentant. And it is up to the community to punish the wrongdoer as
'Abdu'l-Bahá revealed:
But if criminals were entirely forgiven, the order of the world would be upset. So
punishment is one of the essential necessities for the safety of communities, but he who is
oppressed by a transgressor has not the right to take vengeance. On the contrary, he
should forgive and pardon, for this is worthy of the world of man." 14
I read a wonderful book entitled Why Bad Things Happen to Good People by
Harold Kushner. His son had a degenerative disease and his book explores not why bad
things happen to good people per se but the human response to pain, our own and others.
I found his book to be a great eye opener because it distances God from the evil that
humans inflict on each other, and puts disease and accidents in their rightful place in the
scheme of things. In examining the life of the Prophet Job, he comes up with three
statements he says we would all like to believe and they are:
that God is all-powerful and causes everything that happens in the world. Nothing
happens without His willing it;
that God is just and fair, and stands for people getting what they deserve, so that the good
prosper and the wicked are punished;
that Job is a good person.
These three statements do not contradict themselves as long as nothing goes wrong. As
we know, everything went wrong for Job, one of God's most devoted followers, therefore
since God is all powerful and God gives people what they deserve, then Job must have
been a sinner. But we know that Job was not a sinner, therefore was God testing him?
But why kill his children to see if Job could pass a test? Would you want to believe in a
God that murders innocent children? How do you pray to such a God?
We may not say these things out loud to ourselves, especially being Bahá'ís and believing
that we know God's Plan for humankind. However, I believe in the collective memory of
humanity and I believe that we have all kinds of unchallenged assumptions about God and
life on this planet. So even if we are Bahá'ís we are liable to have a belief system which
dates back to the time of Job. This is not a criticism, but rather an acknowledgment that it
takes many generations to discard outworn beliefs. So in endeavouring to make meaning
out of suffering, and knowing that God is good, and wants only the best for us, it must
have been on some level, we think, that Job was the sinner. However, as we know, when
Job questioned God, God neither gave him a reason nor call him a sinner. God said in
part:
Who is this that darkeneth counsel by words without knowledge? Gird up now thy loins
like a man; for I will demand of thee and answer thou me. Where wast thou when I laid
the foundations for the earth? Declare if thou has understanding. .... Hast thou
commanded the morning since thy days; and caused the dayspring to know his place?15
Or as Bahá'u'lláh revealed: From His retreat of glory His Voice is ever proclaiming:
'Verily, I am God; there is none other God besides Me, the All-Knowing, the All-Wise".16
According to Kushner, there is an old Iranian folk proverb about God and suffering and
our response to one another's suffering: If you see a blind man, kick him; why should you
be kinder than God ? He explains: In other words, if you see someone who is suffering,
you must believe that he deserves his fate and that God wants him to suffer. Therefore,
put yourself on God's side by shunning him or humiliating him further. If you try to help
him, you will be going against God's justice".17
I don't know if this is an Iranian folk proverb. Perhaps it's just a human folk proverb
because some part of me immediately understood the proverb. If God is an all-loving
parent, then He would never hurt us, so therefore the blind man must have done
something to deserve his blindness. This is one way of trying to understand suffering, but
upon close scrutiny, it does not stand up to reason. Does God really make people disabled
so that the person will know and love God more? I think not. I think sickness occurs
because there is disease. There is something out of order in the body. God is there so
that one can find strength and comfort. How can one pray to the One that caused the
illness? It's like being nice to a thief that robbed you of a precious jewel. God does not
cause evil. Humans inflict evil on each other.
"Indeed the actions of man himself breed a profusion of satanic power. For were
men to abide by and observe the divine teachings, every trace of evil would be
banished from the face of the earth. However, the widespread differences that
exist among mankind and the prevalence of sedition, contention, conflict and the
like are the primary factors which provoke the appearance of the satanic spirit.
Yet the Holy Spirit hath ever shunned such matters. A world in which naught
can be perceived save strife, quarrels and corruption is bound to became the seat
of the throne, the very metropolis, of Satan."18
I would now like to talk about the soul. I am conscious of the fact that Bahá'u'lláh
revealed that the soul is a mystery no mind, however acute, can ever hope to
unravel.19
The Bab revealed "As this physical frame is the throne of the inner temple, whatever
occurs to the former is felt by the latter. In reality that which takes delight in joy or is
saddened by pain is the inner temple of the body, not the body itself..." 20
Abdu'l-Bahá writes "But when sadness visits us we become weak, our strength leaves us,
our comprehension is dim, and our intelligence veiled. The actualities of life seem to elude
our grasp, the eyes of our spirits fail to discover the secret mysteries, and we become even
as dead beings. 21
John Bradshaw, the author of Creating Love: the next great stage of growth believes that
the soul is what recognises that we are being degraded in an act of abuse.22
This is what I believe happens when traumatic events occur and people develop Post
traumatic stress disorder: I believe that when people suffer a traumatic event, it's like
someone has heaped a lot of garbage on them - invisible garbage. And they have to find
their way out of this labyrinth of awfulness and it is their soul which knows something
terrible has happened and it seeks relief. It is imperative that the community prays for the
soul to assist it in its long journey out of the invisible garbage heap. Remember, for Post
traumatic stress disorder survivors, their world has been turned into a nightmare. At any
time, due to some outside influence they can return to the place of the trauma. Sometimes
the sadness and grief is so great that even listening to music can be the cause of great
pain.
I do not believe it is useful to mouth the platitudes I mentioned above to people who
suffer from Post traumatic stress disorder. To say to someone that because this traumatic
event happened to them proves that God must really love them places both God and the
survivor in a very precarious position. Where does the survivor now go for love and
succour? Is this really what God is all about - personally visiting chaos on unsuspecting
people?
Trust is a most crucial element in a human being's life. It's a firm belief in the reliability or
truth or strength of a person or thing; it's a confident expectation. We trust gravity will
work every time we put our feet on the ground. We trust when the traffic light is green,
it's safe to proceed. Now I want you to picture for a moment what it would be like for
you not to trust anything around you. What would it be like not to be able to rely on
anything? This is what it is to varying degrees for people with Post traumatic stress
disorder. For instance, for people who have been ritually abused this overhead shows the
world they might inhabit. [Overhead]. Words take on different meanings, the young
woman is thrown back to the experiences of the past and can not trust the psychiatrist
because he has now become in her mind "one of them".
So how is trust regained? It is my experience that there are some very important elements
in rebuilding trust and they are love, listen, and believe.
Love: Bahá'u'lláh revealed O ye rich ones of the earth! The poor in your midst are My
trust; guard ye My trust, and be not intent only on your own ease.23 'Amatu'l-Bahá
Ruhiiyih Khanum said that there is so little love in the world that those of us who have an
abundance of it should share it. And this is what this Hidden Word means to me. If we
are rich in love, then we must share it with those who have known abuse and
degradation.
Listen: Sometimes all it takes is for someone to extend a hand and reach in the invisible
garbage heap and help the survivor find her way. This means listening to the person. It
can take hours and hours, sometimes years, but eventually the person is finally able to stop
talking and resume some sort of life.
Brenda Ueland says listening is a great and powerful thing, a magnetic and strange thing, a
creative force. She writes Think how the friends that really listen to us are the ones we
move toward, and we want to sit in their radius as though it did us good, like ultraviolet
rays.24 She says that when we are listened to, really listened to as if what we have to say
means something, ideas actually begin to grow within us and come to life. When we have
problems, who is that we go to she asks? Not to the hard, bossy practical ones who can
tell you exactly what to do, but to the listeners: that is, the kindest, least censorious, least
bossy people that you know. It is because by pouring out your problem to them, you then
know what to do about it yourself.25 I think people with Post traumatic stress disorder
are always trying to make sense of what has happened. They are trying to find the
meaning of their experience.
Belief: Often the traumatic event is unbelievable and to take the step towards belief is to
go against what one might have thought previously about the goodness of human beings.
But belief is essential because as more and more people believe that human beings can
become lower than animals, the person with Post traumatic stress disorder is not living in
an isolated world of terror. They are able to talk about it knowing that people won't think
they are crazy.
How does all this relate to community? I would like to share with you a recent incident,
although none of the people involved have Post traumatic stress disorder. It was at a
study class, and there were two people who arrived late. One of them was very upset
because a friend of hers had just committed suicide. She asked that in our round of
prayers we remember her friend. The study class continued after the prayers and there
was some tension. When I was driving home, I realised that what we should have done,
had we been true community, was to listen to the woman tell us how she felt about this
terrible news, and ask if there was anything we could do, perhaps pray, or let her cry, or
let her tell us about the dead woman. Now I know some may be thinking about justice
and how it would not have been just to all the friends who came for the study class. Well
I have thought about it, and I think if it had been Feast or an LSA meeting, perhaps that's
correct because these are institutional meetings. But this was a study class where a great
big white elephant walked in and everyone ignored it.
Shoghi Effendi wrote to an individual believer in 1935 that Bahá'í community life provides
you with an indispensable laboratory where you can translate into living and constructive
action, the principles which you imbibe from the teachings...."26 One of the outstanding
writers of our time is M Scott Peck, author of books like Different Drum, The Road Less
Travelled, and A World Waiting to be Born, who writes at length about the laboratory or
community. I think he has some wonderful insights about the nature of community.
Community is and must be inclusive. The great enemy of community is exclusivity.27
Community: a group that has learned to transcend its individual differences.
Community is contemplative. The members are thoughtful about themselves, and become
thoughtful about the group. 28
Community is a safe place. As soon as it is safe to speak one's heart, as soon as most
people in the group know they will be listened to and accepted for themselves,
vulnerability snowballs and community members find themselves being valued and
appreciated. They become more vulnerable. Love and acceptance escalates. They
become intimate friends, and true healing begins.29
Community requires the ability to expose our wounds and weakness to our fellow
creatures. It also requires the capacity to be affected by the wounds of others, to be
wounded by their wounds.30
He also writes about the stages community goes through, over and over again.
The stage of pretense. The communication in pseudo-community is filled with
generalisations. It is polite, inauthentic, boring, sterile and unproductive.
The stage of chaos: the attempt to obliterate the differences which have escalated during
pseudo-community.
The stage of emptiness: I call this the suffering stage because it is the time that members
of the community are striving to become community and must relinquish prejudices, snap
judgements, fixed expectations, the desire to convert, heal or fix, the urge to win, the fear
of looking like a fool, the need to control. Peck writes Other things may be exquisitely
personal: hidden griefs, hatreds or terrors that must be confessed, made public, before the
individual can be fully 'present' to the group. This is the time of risk taking and requires
great individual courage.
Peck believes that community must become empty for a kind of miracle to occur. Is this
not what Bahá'u'lláh tells us about teaching either ourselves or others? - that we cannot
fill an overflowing cup. It must be emptied first.
Only after these three stages can there be true community, which then must go through the
stages again and again as it advances towards perfection.31
If we have people in the Bahá'í community who have terrible stories to tell and they have
no one who will listen to them, how then will we become true community? How will be
enriched by their courage and their will to live in the face of denial, if we do not hear their
stories? I believe we have a lot to learn from people who have suffered trauma because
we will learn how to be truly human as God has intended us to be. And the community
also has a an important part to play in the healing process. In a letter to an individual
believer, the Department of the Secretariat wrote on behalf of the Universal House of
Justice, Your letter refers to experiences in the Bahá'í community such as group activity,
chanting, embracing, and referring to 'Abdu'l-Bahá as the Master, which have the effect of
triggering in your daughters the revival of the painful memories they are seeking to
overcome. While this is unfortunate, it might also be viewed as an important part of the
healing process that they learn to clearly distinguish between people motivated by a
corrupt inclination to abuse and manipulate others, and a community which has as its
watchword the protection of the rights of each individual, and which is striving to
strengthen the bond of mutual love and respect which binds it together.32
When people share it also brings about incalculable public good. Jeffrey Jay writes that the
effects of trauma cannot disappear from the history of the victim so there are two choices
for the victim: introspection or extrospection. The latter allows the victim to understand
not only how the traumatic state is maintained by public ostracism, but how they can
transform their personal shame into effective public witness. Even though the community
resists what trauma victims have to say, it needs their knowledge in order to understand
that trauma begins in the community and belongs in the community.33
The Bahá'í community has an awesome responsibility. As world conditions worsen, there
will be more and more traumatised souls coming into the Bahá'í community. Unless the
community is able to listen and believe what has happened, and unless the community
allows these people to speak their pain, then they will come in and go out again. Because
remember many of them have a complete lack of faith in human beings, in all areas you
know, whether it's politics or whatever, you hear one thing and you believe something
else. 34
I have attempted in this paper to address the issues that accompany post traumatic stress
disorder, its challenge to the community, and steps which may assist the community to
face this issue.
Notes
1 Friedman, M Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder: An Overview, February 1996
2 ibid
3 Jay, J. Terrible Knowledge, Networker, Nov/Dec 1991
4 Shoghi Effendi, Promised Day is Come, page 1
5 Bahá'u'lláh as quoted in Promised Day is Come, page 1
6 ibid, page 24
7 ibd
8 ibid
9 ibid, page 25
10 ibid, pages 26, 27
11 Robyn Morgan, The Words of a Woman, p 283, 284
12 Haber, pp 12-22
13 Some issues relating to child abuse. Department of the Secretariat of the Universal
House of Justice. An attachment to a letter to an individual Bahá'í: 5 January 1992 5
#10
14 'Abdu'l-Bahá. The Promulgation of Universal Peace. Discourses by Abdul Bahá
Abbas during His visit to the United States and Canada in 1912. Wilmette: Bahá'í
Publishing Trust, 1982.p268
15 Job 38, 3, 4, 12
16 Gleanings, p 49
17 Kushner, page 94
18 Tablets of Bahá'u'lláh Revealed after the Kitab-i-Aqdas, pp 176-177
19 Gleanings, page 158, 159
20 The Bab. Selections from the Writings of the Bab. Haifa: Bahá'í World Centre,
1976.p95
21 'Abdu'l-Bahá. "Joy and Pain". In The Reality of Man Excerpts from Writings of
Bahá'u'lláh and 'Abdu'l-Bahá. Wilmette: Bahá'í Publishing Trust, 1962.p15, 16
22 Bradshaw, p116
23 Hidden Words, page 41
24 Brenda Ueland, page 104 Utne Reader, Nov/Dec 1992
25 ibid, 104, 105
26 Ltr from the Guardian to Allen Tichener, 1935
27 Peck, The Different Drum, p 61
28 ibid, p 62
29 ibid, p 68
30 ibid, 69, 70
31 Peck, A World Waiting to be born, Civility Rediscovered, page 275-275
32 House, 5 January 1992
33 Jay, p 27
34 Jay, J. Terrible Knowledge, Networker, Nov/Dec 1991, 20
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Chasm of Belief
Barbara L. McLellan
1996
For the past seven years I have been privileged to work with a young woman
who is a trauma survivor. I have watched as she courageously met each new
day knowing that it would be filled with nightmares. Simple chores like
going shopping were filled with terror. Radio and television had to be
closely monitored to ensure that nothing would trigger her and put her
into a traumatised state.
I can also remember clearly the day I gazed out my office window and with
absolute certainty and conviction believed that the human race was not a
fit species to inhabit the earth. I would not have been at all surprised
if God suddenly decided to destroy the earth. That moment which took
place a few years ago was a turning point in my belief system and led me
on a search for meaning. I knew that my old ways of understanding
adversity were no longer valid. I was not interested in "how could an
all-loving God allow these things to happen" because I believe that man
not God causes suffering. The process I became interested in is what I
call a chasm of belief . A chasm is a great divide, usually a deep long
running pit gashed into a mountain. The mountain symbolises one's faith
and the chasm can be formed by great suffering. Suddenly one's world is
cleft asunder. One does not lose faith, but there is a deep wound which
requires healing. Part of the healing process, I believe is finding
meaning when one has endured dire adversity and trauma.
This paper will explore the elements of trauma, belief, truth, and some
possible difficulties being in community.
Is there a place in the Bahá'í community for people who have experienced
great trauma?
If a person's view of the world is one of extreme pessimism, does that
person have a real place in community, or must they hide what they know to
be true?
After the war in Viet Nam, many soldiers were eventually diagnosed with a
disorder known as post traumatic stress syndrome. It is not a mental
illness. Dr Matthew Friedman of the National Center for Post traumatic
stress disorder says that the etiological agent or the traumatic event was
outside the individual rather than an inherent individual weakness or a
traumatic neurosis. The traumatic event is something outside the range of
usual human experience for instance the Holocaust, war, severe abuse,
torture and genocide. Not all people exposed to these events will have
Post traumatic stress disorder. It has been recognised that trauma, like
pain, is "not an external phenomena that can be completely objectified".
Like pain, the traumatic experience is filtered through cognitive and
emotional processes before it can be appraised as an extreme threat".1
Some aspects of the traumatic event seem to get fixed in the mind,
unaltered by the passage of time or by the intervention of subsequent
experiences.2 People with Post traumatic stress disorder have difficulty
sleeping, are extraordinarily concerned with issues of safety and freedom,
and can suffer physical illness. In addition people with Post traumatic
stress disorder can be easily triggered by visual and or audio input.
How does someone with Post traumatic stress disorder cope in community?
To understand this, we must first know the nature of Post traumatic stress
disorder. This disorder confines people to the past, not through any
inherent weakness they might have, but by the traumatic event itself. So
for instance, someone who was involved in a bombing might be thrown into
the past when a car backfires or she hears a loud bang. All the memories
are reborn once again and all the feelings of horror and confusion return.
The Holocaust is the name given to the systematic execution of six million Jews in Europe
during the Second World War. Since the Holocaust, there have been many, many other
traumatic events and many more survivors. Ritual abuse is a terror endured by children
and adults alike. This is a particularly brutal form of sexual, physical and mental abuse and
takes place in a group setting. It renders the survivors very wary of group activities. The
survivor can not trust the group and feels vulnerable, unsafe and at times terrified.
One of the differences between the Holocaust survivor and a ritual abuse survivor is that
while there is almost no denial about the former, there is still an absence of belief about
ritual abuse. This denial makes it much more difficult for survivors to recover.
We have people in our community who have experienced war, ritual abuse, torture and
have witnessed genocide. How do they see the world? A woman who survived the
Holocaust was asked how, after all the terrible things that happened to her, she found the
strength to live each day. She replied, "It's more a view of the world, a total worldwide
view of extreme pessimism ... [a sense] of really knowing the truth in a way that other
people don't know it. And all the truth is harsh and impossible to really accept, and yet
you have to go on and function. So it's a complete lack of faith in human beings, in all
areas you know, whether it's politics or whatever, you hear one thing and you believe
something else. I mean you say, 'Oh, well, I know the truth'. 3
I found this to be a most enlightening statement. The survivor sees the world with
extreme pessimism, sees it as no one else sees it, does not have faith in human beings, and
does not believe in what they say. Can you imagine how it must feel to live a life which
has these elements in it? What can be said to the survivor?
The survivor of ritual abuse also knows the truth. She knows that her teacher, or her
doctor, or her lawyer or the next door neighbour is capable of great evil and sadism, while
at the same time presenting a public face which would deny any accusations against
them.
Refugees from terror and persecution also know the twin faces. They remember that one
day they were sending their children off to school, going to work, thinking about painting
their roof and before the day was over, they were fleeing for their lives. They absolutely
know that life is unpredictable and unsafe. And there is another aspect. I met a Bahá'í
refugee from Iran who is no longer in New Zealand. He was filled with guilt. He asked
was not his blood the same as those being martyred? And yet he was safe and sound in a
free country with his wife and children. He had enormous guilt because he was able to
leave Iran.
Shoghi Effendi wrote that a tempest, unprecedented in its violence is sweeping the face of
the earth, that it is a cleansing force and it is disrupting the homes of its peoples and
harrowing up the souls of its inhabitants.4 The promised day is come, the day when
tormenting trials will have surged above your heads, and beneath your feet, saying: "Taste
ye what your hands have wrought!"5
This is the day that we are living in. It is a day fraught with danger, both spiritual and
physical and we know as Bahá'ís, that it's going to get worse in the short term. Having
said that, however, I am concerned with process: how do we as a community respond to
the sufferings of others? How do we help people make sense of their suffering? This
suffering is real and at times paralysing.
Extreme trauma destroys one's ability to trust the world. The person actually lives in two
worlds - the one around us and a world which is like a deep well of sadness. The
traumatic event seems to violate the integrity of the essence or nature of the person.
One of the ways for a survivor to live with Post traumatic stress disorder is for other
people to listen to them. Survivors need to have a hearing in community. In other words,
they need people to listen to what has happened to them and not make judgements.
However, this process is fraught with difficulties. In working with Viet Nam veterans,
Jeffrey Jay of the Center for Post-Traumatic Stress Studies and Treatment in Washington
D.C found that despite all the different therapies they tried, the young men were not
recovering from their night and day mares. He writes With our therapeutic weapons of
catharsis and confrontation in group therapy, we marched resolutely through the desolate
landscape of the veterans' alienation and isolation. Slowly, we began to understand the
depths of the problem and the meager impact of our methods, which centred on the
private, inner experience of the survivor. Only when we started to understand that the
veterans, like most trauma victims, cannot fully recover until they can find meaning for
their experience did we begin to realise the intimate connection between public acceptance
and private resolution of the trauma.6 Jeffrey Jay and his colleagues decided to have
gather people together to listen to the veterans' experiences. This was at a time in
America when being a Vietnam vet was very unpopular. A young man told his story of
how he threw a Vietcong family out of a helicopter to their deaths and wondered how he
can now take up a normal life. At that meeting was an older man who had fought during
World War II and his response was I want you to know that I was in the Pacific in the
WW2. I landed on Corregidor. What happened to us was much worse than what
happened to you, but I have never talked about it, I have never complained, and I never
will.7 To the older man, the young Viet Nam veteran had violated a fundamental code of
privacy that rigidly forbade the public revelation of terrible truths. However, the younger
man had decided it was better to tell the truth to whomever wanted to hear than to go to a
pub and drink it off.
The older man could be replaced by an older woman admonishing a young woman that
rape is part of a woman's life, or religious refugees who say, we did it for God, do not
complain I do not think the trauma victims are saying oh woe is me, look at how hard life
is, I believe they are trying to share what has happened to them to widen the human
experience and speak their terrible truth.
We have all had the experience of being with someone who sounds like a broken record.
All they can talk about is this terrible thing that happened and we can't seem to get them
off the subject. We can't seem to get them to look at the bright side of life. These people
are so negative we say. We should start to avoid them and let them get on with their own
lives.
This is a very predictable pattern for human beings. At first we will reassure and offer
cheering homilies. But the person keeps on talking in fact feels driven to a howling, self-
centered outrage that exactly corresponds in ferocity to the pain and terror of the trauma
itself.8 So we, the community begin to give subtle warnings, but the person who
experienced the trauma can not take heed. The ultimate trump card is shame. Only
shame is powerful enough to squelch the victim's desperate need to be heard. The power
of shame is known and sanctioned in the Bible: In the story of Job, neither God nor the
community would tolerate even a good and innocent man's crying out against the most
outrageous betrayal and unjust violence.
The Greek root of the word shame is scham, which refers to a skin that is used to
cover the exposed, vulnerable parts of a person, specially what is seen as shameful. The
shamed person feels both exposed and condemned, uncovered and seen through - in a
sense, flayed by the community's disgust and contempt. The trauma survivor already
wishes, on some level, to disappear, to withdraw, to die. Therefore, the best technique for
silencing the trauma victim, whose outraged and betrayed sense of self cries out for
expression, is shame, which alienates the private, violated self from the social self. Shame
causes the private self to retreat into numbness, to repress feelings and dampen personal
engagement with others.9
Now you might be saying to yourself, how very cruel of community to silence these
people who have suffered so much. But the other side of the coin is this reality: To
discuss in public the lasting effects of trauma would defy the assumption of acceptable,
safe relations between consenting citizens of a decent society. Basically, the victim who
will not remain silent is challenging society's vision of itself, bearing witness to
uncomfortable moral truths and demanding from everyone ... a kind of moral accounting:
'And where do you stand', the victim asks 'not on abstract issues of truth and justice, but
on this war and this violence and this brutality, this terrible thing that happens every day in
our world, yours as well as mine?'"10
Ah, we respond to the trauma victim: but tests are a healing medicine, my calamity is my
providence, God must really love you, no one is given a test beyond her own capacity,
don't be so negative, the world is not like that, forgive the people who hurt you and you'll
get over it. And why do we say those things? Because we cannot bear to live without
hope. We believe that the world cannot be as bad as we are being told. But this is what
the Post traumatic stress disorder survivor does not have - hope. Many survivors have a
great well of sorrow within them which cannot be filled. Robyn Morgan writes about a
Cambodian woman who saw her family and friends tortured and executed by the Khmer
Rouge. The woman said that one day they picked out one woman and one man and hit
them again and again. She began crying again, and couldn't stop. She recalls that 'it felt
like there was a big needle pushing through my head.' When she stopped crying, days
later, she could no longer see.11 The woman was blinded by sorrow. Can you imagine
what that must be like? To be so sad, you decide that you no longer want to look out at
the world.
Some people advise the person to forgive and forget. In other words, forgive the people
who hurt you so you can get over it. I am not saying that we should not forgive, but I
think we need to know what kind of forgiveness we are talking about when such advice is
given and by forgiving the individual, will the event really be forgotten?
First of all, when we advise someone to forgive, what kind of forgiveness is it? Is it
forgiveness based on the reversal of moral judgement, or as a remission of punishment, or
is it to overcome resentment?12 I do not think any of these are appropriate when a person
or persons have inflicted great harm on another. In a letter written on behalf of the
Universal House of Justice regarding the forgiveness of a father who has abused his
daughter, it states: To forgive him will not be easy, and this is not something to which
either you or the members of your family can force yourselves. Nevertheless, you should
know that forgiveness is the standard which individual Bahá'ís are called upon to attain. It
is an essential part of the spiritual growth of a person who has been wronged. To nurse a
grievance or hatred against another soul is spiritually poisonous to the soul which nurses
it, but to strive to see another person as a child of God and, however heinous his deeds, to
attempt to overlook his sins for the sake of God, removes bitterness from the soul and
both ennobles and strengthens it." 13 This is the kind of forgiveness we are called upon
to deliver: it is not in a soul's best interest to harbour hatred.
I think one of the hardest things about forgiving is if the wrongdoers have not been
punished by society. However the above quote indicates that forgiveness is an individual
act, rather than a community act, so it is possible for a wronged one to forgive, whether or
not the wrongdoer is repentant. And it is up to the community to punish the wrongdoer as
'Abdu'l-Bahá revealed:
But if criminals were entirely forgiven, the order of the world would be upset. So
punishment is one of the essential necessities for the safety of communities, but he who is
oppressed by a transgressor has not the right to take vengeance. On the contrary, he
should forgive and pardon, for this is worthy of the world of man." 14
I read a wonderful book entitled Why Bad Things Happen to Good People by
Harold Kushner. His son had a degenerative disease and his book explores not why bad
things happen to good people per se but the human response to pain, our own and others.
I found his book to be a great eye opener because it distances God from the evil that
humans inflict on each other, and puts disease and accidents in their rightful place in the
scheme of things. In examining the life of the Prophet Job, he comes up with three
statements he says we would all like to believe and they are:
that God is all-powerful and causes everything that happens in the world. Nothing
happens without His willing it;
that God is just and fair, and stands for people getting what they deserve, so that the good
prosper and the wicked are punished;
that Job is a good person.
These three statements do not contradict themselves as long as nothing goes wrong. As
we know, everything went wrong for Job, one of God's most devoted followers, therefore
since God is all powerful and God gives people what they deserve, then Job must have
been a sinner. But we know that Job was not a sinner, therefore was God testing him?
But why kill his children to see if Job could pass a test? Would you want to believe in a
God that murders innocent children? How do you pray to such a God?
We may not say these things out loud to ourselves, especially being Bahá'ís and believing
that we know God's Plan for humankind. However, I believe in the collective memory of
humanity and I believe that we have all kinds of unchallenged assumptions about God and
life on this planet. So even if we are Bahá'ís we are liable to have a belief system which
dates back to the time of Job. This is not a criticism, but rather an acknowledgment that it
takes many generations to discard outworn beliefs. So in endeavouring to make meaning
out of suffering, and knowing that God is good, and wants only the best for us, it must
have been on some level, we think, that Job was the sinner. However, as we know, when
Job questioned God, God neither gave him a reason nor call him a sinner. God said in
part:
Who is this that darkeneth counsel by words without knowledge? Gird up now thy loins
like a man; for I will demand of thee and answer thou me. Where wast thou when I laid
the foundations for the earth? Declare if thou has understanding. .... Hast thou
commanded the morning since thy days; and caused the dayspring to know his place?15
Or as Bahá'u'lláh revealed: From His retreat of glory His Voice is ever proclaiming:
'Verily, I am God; there is none other God besides Me, the All-Knowing, the All-Wise".16
According to Kushner, there is an old Iranian folk proverb about God and suffering and
our response to one another's suffering: If you see a blind man, kick him; why should you
be kinder than God ? He explains: In other words, if you see someone who is suffering,
you must believe that he deserves his fate and that God wants him to suffer. Therefore,
put yourself on God's side by shunning him or humiliating him further. If you try to help
him, you will be going against God's justice".17
I don't know if this is an Iranian folk proverb. Perhaps it's just a human folk proverb
because some part of me immediately understood the proverb. If God is an all-loving
parent, then He would never hurt us, so therefore the blind man must have done
something to deserve his blindness. This is one way of trying to understand suffering, but
upon close scrutiny, it does not stand up to reason. Does God really make people disabled
so that the person will know and love God more? I think not. I think sickness occurs
because there is disease. There is something out of order in the body. God is there so
that one can find strength and comfort. How can one pray to the One that caused the
illness? It's like being nice to a thief that robbed you of a precious jewel. God does not
cause evil. Humans inflict evil on each other.
"Indeed the actions of man himself breed a profusion of satanic power. For were
men to abide by and observe the divine teachings, every trace of evil would be
banished from the face of the earth. However, the widespread differences that
exist among mankind and the prevalence of sedition, contention, conflict and the
like are the primary factors which provoke the appearance of the satanic spirit.
Yet the Holy Spirit hath ever shunned such matters. A world in which naught
can be perceived save strife, quarrels and corruption is bound to became the seat
of the throne, the very metropolis, of Satan."18
I would now like to talk about the soul. I am conscious of the fact that Bahá'u'lláh
revealed that the soul is a mystery no mind, however acute, can ever hope to
unravel.19
The Bab revealed "As this physical frame is the throne of the inner temple, whatever
occurs to the former is felt by the latter. In reality that which takes delight in joy or is
saddened by pain is the inner temple of the body, not the body itself..." 20
Abdu'l-Bahá writes "But when sadness visits us we become weak, our strength leaves us,
our comprehension is dim, and our intelligence veiled. The actualities of life seem to elude
our grasp, the eyes of our spirits fail to discover the secret mysteries, and we become even
as dead beings. 21
John Bradshaw, the author of Creating Love: the next great stage of growth believes that
the soul is what recognises that we are being degraded in an act of abuse.22
This is what I believe happens when traumatic events occur and people develop Post
traumatic stress disorder: I believe that when people suffer a traumatic event, it's like
someone has heaped a lot of garbage on them - invisible garbage. And they have to find
their way out of this labyrinth of awfulness and it is their soul which knows something
terrible has happened and it seeks relief. It is imperative that the community prays for the
soul to assist it in its long journey out of the invisible garbage heap. Remember, for Post
traumatic stress disorder survivors, their world has been turned into a nightmare. At any
time, due to some outside influence they can return to the place of the trauma. Sometimes
the sadness and grief is so great that even listening to music can be the cause of great
pain.
I do not believe it is useful to mouth the platitudes I mentioned above to people who
suffer from Post traumatic stress disorder. To say to someone that because this traumatic
event happened to them proves that God must really love them places both God and the
survivor in a very precarious position. Where does the survivor now go for love and
succour? Is this really what God is all about - personally visiting chaos on unsuspecting
people?
Trust is a most crucial element in a human being's life. It's a firm belief in the reliability or
truth or strength of a person or thing; it's a confident expectation. We trust gravity will
work every time we put our feet on the ground. We trust when the traffic light is green,
it's safe to proceed. Now I want you to picture for a moment what it would be like for
you not to trust anything around you. What would it be like not to be able to rely on
anything? This is what it is to varying degrees for people with Post traumatic stress
disorder. For instance, for people who have been ritually abused this overhead shows the
world they might inhabit. [Overhead]. Words take on different meanings, the young
woman is thrown back to the experiences of the past and can not trust the psychiatrist
because he has now become in her mind "one of them".
So how is trust regained? It is my experience that there are some very important elements
in rebuilding trust and they are love, listen, and believe.
Love: Bahá'u'lláh revealed O ye rich ones of the earth! The poor in your midst are My
trust; guard ye My trust, and be not intent only on your own ease.23 'Amatu'l-Bahá
Ruhiiyih Khanum said that there is so little love in the world that those of us who have an
abundance of it should share it. And this is what this Hidden Word means to me. If we
are rich in love, then we must share it with those who have known abuse and
degradation.
Listen: Sometimes all it takes is for someone to extend a hand and reach in the invisible
garbage heap and help the survivor find her way. This means listening to the person. It
can take hours and hours, sometimes years, but eventually the person is finally able to stop
talking and resume some sort of life.
Brenda Ueland says listening is a great and powerful thing, a magnetic and strange thing, a
creative force. She writes Think how the friends that really listen to us are the ones we
move toward, and we want to sit in their radius as though it did us good, like ultraviolet
rays.24 She says that when we are listened to, really listened to as if what we have to say
means something, ideas actually begin to grow within us and come to life. When we have
problems, who is that we go to she asks? Not to the hard, bossy practical ones who can
tell you exactly what to do, but to the listeners: that is, the kindest, least censorious, least
bossy people that you know. It is because by pouring out your problem to them, you then
know what to do about it yourself.25 I think people with Post traumatic stress disorder
are always trying to make sense of what has happened. They are trying to find the
meaning of their experience.
Belief: Often the traumatic event is unbelievable and to take the step towards belief is to
go against what one might have thought previously about the goodness of human beings.
But belief is essential because as more and more people believe that human beings can
become lower than animals, the person with Post traumatic stress disorder is not living in
an isolated world of terror. They are able to talk about it knowing that people won't think
they are crazy.
How does all this relate to community? I would like to share with you a recent incident,
although none of the people involved have Post traumatic stress disorder. It was at a
study class, and there were two people who arrived late. One of them was very upset
because a friend of hers had just committed suicide. She asked that in our round of
prayers we remember her friend. The study class continued after the prayers and there
was some tension. When I was driving home, I realised that what we should have done,
had we been true community, was to listen to the woman tell us how she felt about this
terrible news, and ask if there was anything we could do, perhaps pray, or let her cry, or
let her tell us about the dead woman. Now I know some may be thinking about justice
and how it would not have been just to all the friends who came for the study class. Well
I have thought about it, and I think if it had been Feast or an LSA meeting, perhaps that's
correct because these are institutional meetings. But this was a study class where a great
big white elephant walked in and everyone ignored it.
Shoghi Effendi wrote to an individual believer in 1935 that Bahá'í community life provides
you with an indispensable laboratory where you can translate into living and constructive
action, the principles which you imbibe from the teachings...."26 One of the outstanding
writers of our time is M Scott Peck, author of books like Different Drum, The Road Less
Travelled, and A World Waiting to be Born, who writes at length about the laboratory or
community. I think he has some wonderful insights about the nature of community.
Community is and must be inclusive. The great enemy of community is exclusivity.27
Community: a group that has learned to transcend its individual differences.
Community is contemplative. The members are thoughtful about themselves, and become
thoughtful about the group. 28
Community is a safe place. As soon as it is safe to speak one's heart, as soon as most
people in the group know they will be listened to and accepted for themselves,
vulnerability snowballs and community members find themselves being valued and
appreciated. They become more vulnerable. Love and acceptance escalates. They
become intimate friends, and true healing begins.29
Community requires the ability to expose our wounds and weakness to our fellow
creatures. It also requires the capacity to be affected by the wounds of others, to be
wounded by their wounds.30
He also writes about the stages community goes through, over and over again.
The stage of pretense. The communication in pseudo-community is filled with
generalisations. It is polite, inauthentic, boring, sterile and unproductive.
The stage of chaos: the attempt to obliterate the differences which have escalated during
pseudo-community.
The stage of emptiness: I call this the suffering stage because it is the time that members
of the community are striving to become community and must relinquish prejudices, snap
judgements, fixed expectations, the desire to convert, heal or fix, the urge to win, the fear
of looking like a fool, the need to control. Peck writes Other things may be exquisitely
personal: hidden griefs, hatreds or terrors that must be confessed, made public, before the
individual can be fully 'present' to the group. This is the time of risk taking and requires
great individual courage.
Peck believes that community must become empty for a kind of miracle to occur. Is this
not what Bahá'u'lláh tells us about teaching either ourselves or others? - that we cannot
fill an overflowing cup. It must be emptied first.
Only after these three stages can there be true community, which then must go through the
stages again and again as it advances towards perfection.31
If we have people in the Bahá'í community who have terrible stories to tell and they have
no one who will listen to them, how then will we become true community? How will be
enriched by their courage and their will to live in the face of denial, if we do not hear their
stories? I believe we have a lot to learn from people who have suffered trauma because
we will learn how to be truly human as God has intended us to be. And the community
also has a an important part to play in the healing process. In a letter to an individual
believer, the Department of the Secretariat wrote on behalf of the Universal House of
Justice, Your letter refers to experiences in the Bahá'í community such as group activity,
chanting, embracing, and referring to 'Abdu'l-Bahá as the Master, which have the effect of
triggering in your daughters the revival of the painful memories they are seeking to
overcome. While this is unfortunate, it might also be viewed as an important part of the
healing process that they learn to clearly distinguish between people motivated by a
corrupt inclination to abuse and manipulate others, and a community which has as its
watchword the protection of the rights of each individual, and which is striving to
strengthen the bond of mutual love and respect which binds it together.32
When people share it also brings about incalculable public good. Jeffrey Jay writes that the
effects of trauma cannot disappear from the history of the victim so there are two choices
for the victim: introspection or extrospection. The latter allows the victim to understand
not only how the traumatic state is maintained by public ostracism, but how they can
transform their personal shame into effective public witness. Even though the community
resists what trauma victims have to say, it needs their knowledge in order to understand
that trauma begins in the community and belongs in the community.33
The Bahá'í community has an awesome responsibility. As world conditions worsen, there
will be more and more traumatised souls coming into the Bahá'í community. Unless the
community is able to listen and believe what has happened, and unless the community
allows these people to speak their pain, then they will come in and go out again. Because
remember many of them have a complete lack of faith in human beings, in all areas you
know, whether it's politics or whatever, you hear one thing and you believe something
else. 34
I have attempted in this paper to address the issues that accompany post traumatic stress
disorder, its challenge to the community, and steps which may assist the community to
face this issue.
Notes
1 Friedman, M Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder: An Overview, February 1996
2 ibid
3 Jay, J. Terrible Knowledge, Networker, Nov/Dec 1991
4 Shoghi Effendi, Promised Day is Come, page 1
5 Bahá'u'lláh as quoted in Promised Day is Come, page 1
6 ibid, page 24
7 ibd
8 ibid
9 ibid, page 25
10 ibid, pages 26, 27
11 Robyn Morgan, The Words of a Woman, p 283, 284
12 Haber, pp 12-22
13 Some issues relating to child abuse. Department of the Secretariat of the Universal
House of Justice. An attachment to a letter to an individual Bahá'í: 5 January 1992 5
#10
14 'Abdu'l-Bahá. The Promulgation of Universal Peace. Discourses by Abdul Bahá
Abbas during His visit to the United States and Canada in 1912. Wilmette: Bahá'í
Publishing Trust, 1982.p268
15 Job 38, 3, 4, 12
16 Gleanings, p 49
17 Kushner, page 94
18 Tablets of Bahá'u'lláh Revealed after the Kitab-i-Aqdas, pp 176-177
19 Gleanings, page 158, 159
20 The Bab. Selections from the Writings of the Bab. Haifa: Bahá'í World Centre,
1976.p95
21 'Abdu'l-Bahá. "Joy and Pain". In The Reality of Man Excerpts from Writings of
Bahá'u'lláh and 'Abdu'l-Bahá. Wilmette: Bahá'í Publishing Trust, 1962.p15, 16
22 Bradshaw, p116
23 Hidden Words, page 41
24 Brenda Ueland, page 104 Utne Reader, Nov/Dec 1992
25 ibid, 104, 105
26 Ltr from the Guardian to Allen Tichener, 1935
27 Peck, The Different Drum, p 61
28 ibid, p 62
29 ibid, p 68
30 ibid, 69, 70
31 Peck, A World Waiting to be born, Civility Rediscovered, page 275-275
32 House, 5 January 1992
33 Jay, p 27
34 Jay, J. Terrible Knowledge, Networker, Nov/Dec 1991, 20
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